The 3 C's

I tried out a new yoga studio yesterday to change things up a bit. Anyone that knows or follows me knows I LOVE hot yoga - my love for this started with Bikram yoga. But…I get bored very easily and sometimes I just want a little bit of a change from the same 26 Bikram postures over and over again. I felt like I was hitting a plateau with hot yoga :) I'm in Phoenix training for the next few weeks and found this amazing studio called The Madison (themadisonphoenix.com) - they were offering a free first class so I tried it out. I chose Jaqlyn's class because her bio on their website said that if she could name her class it would be called “Gangsta” and one word she’d use to describe it is “raptastic." Ummmm…amazing. And it was! It wasn't a Bikram studio but it was about 90 degrees and the class was perfect for what I needed at that time. At the end of class she started talking about a book she just read called "The Gifts of Imperfection" and its focus on "the three C's" - courage, compassion and connection. Of course, she related it more to the spirit…which we should all practice more of. But it really resonated with me in my fitness journey. Whether you start with needing to lose weight or you start with needing to build muscle (or both) - we all need to embrace our imperfections and know that it will be an extremely rough road without courage, compassion and connecion.

The first step takes courage…and the second step…and every step after that. I've been doing this for a long time know and it feels like the more I do and accomplish, the more courage it takes. You need courage to wake up in the morning and go to your workout…you need courage to get out of your comfort zone…and, for my competitors out there, you need courage to step out on that stage and let the world judge you.

Compassion. Perhaps the most important C. To wake up in the morning and think that no matter what gets done and how much is left undone, you are enough. It’s getting into bed at night and thinking, I am imperfect but I am worthy. Maybe you had the best training session of your life yesterday and today's was complete crap. It's OKAY. Maybe you've been eating clean for weeks and weeks and just couldn't control your cravings at the work happy hour. It's OKAY. Have some compassion for yourself and know that YOU are doing a great job.

And, finally, connection. This one is wide open. Humans need connection. Whether it's a connection to your small group training buddies, your husband, God, music, etc. We want to feel and be connected. Relationships create psychological security so that we can explore and learn and grow. When we feel safe and supported, we feel encouraged and happier - as if we're part of something larger than ourselves. Take a moment to think about the things that you are connected to that make you happy and the things you want to be connected to that you aren't currently connected with…and how can you regain that connection.

We are ALL imperfect. Remember that YOU are beautiful and worthy. Smile!


Jessie Hilgenberg, IFBB Figure Pro

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